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A Change Is Gonna Come

A Change Is Gonna Come. I love that song by Sam Cooke. Yes, it’s been covered by Seal and many other singers over the years. But there’s nothing like the original version. It is soul stirring and full of struggle and hope. My most influential memory of the song itself was that is was playing in the scene from the 1992 Spike Lee directed biopic Malcolm X, just prior to Malcolm entering the Audubon Ballroom where he was assassinated. Some people may have never even noticed that. For me it stood out because that day, like so many days in history, signified that a change was in fact going to come.

We’ve got so many changes taking place in our day to day lives that some of them can be very overwhelming. I’ve said many times that change is necessary for growth. Everything must change and we won’t necessarily like or understand it. However, change is a naturally recurring phenomenon in life. Change is a force. Change is a factor. Change is constant and unapologetic. It’s how we react to change that determines whether or not we grow, achieve, thrive or fail. Our ability to adapt to change determines if we fly or die.

Change is something I embrace because I know I can only control how I react and adapt to that change, regardless of what it is, where it came from or what it is the result of. It’s not always easy. In 2001 I went from married to divorced; I went from happily expecting mother of three to the single mother of one; I went from financially able to financially destitute.  All that and more happened in one year, including 9/11. It was the grace of God himself that helped me work through that and come out better, in spite of my bruises.

Now it is 2011. Ten years later and I’m still experiencing change. I’m more equipped to deal with change now because I’m both older and wiser. Although I’m not so wise that I don’t still learn from the change that I experience. This change today is a lot more positive than what I experienced ten years ago, but it can still be stressful and sometimes overwhelming. Ten years ago I felt like I was in a speeding car headed directly into a cement wall. Today, I feel like I’m in a lear jet speeding off the runway and flying to a tropical island. Big difference. But if I hadn’t experienced what I did ten years ago, I wouldn’t appreciate what I’m going through today. I have earned all the success I’ve accomplished thusfar, and all that I have yet to achieve. I’ve earned it creatively, spiritually, mentally and physically. 

I’ve made ample room for change in my life. I’m open and receptive to it on a daily basis. I’ve opened my heart to a new man. I’ve opened my arms to release my only son off to college. I’ve opened my mind to doing things creatively that others may frown upon or not be courageous enough to try. I’ve opened myself up to more possibilities, opportunities and endeavors in my business endeavors. Many of which I admit are not in my business plan; honestly, I don’t even have a business plan. This is driven by a divine business plan. So as I move forward, I remember that a change is gonna come. Tomorrow and the next day and the day after that. Each day will present a new change, a new opportunity for me to grow and become better than I was before.

Repeat after me:  Change is good.