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My #FabLife40th Birthday

This is a monumental year for me. As I mentioned in an earlier post this year, I’m celebrating my #FabLife40th birthday this year! I’m celebrating the entire year by doing two things: by being a blessing to others and building upon what I’ve already started with the Super Woman Brand. In lieu of accepting gifts for my #FabLife40th birthday, I’m asking Super Fans to support two nonprofit organizations by giving a donation of $20 each for a total of $40 to commemorate the 40 years of my life.

If you’re new to my life story, you may not know that each year that I’ve celebrated my birthday is very special to me since my 30th birthday. I don’t need to celebrate with a party or cake and ice cream. I don’t need a lot of people around me or a lot of gifts either. I celebrate my birthday by setting attainable personal and professional goals. My birthday is also very special to me because I was diagnosed with a chronic illness when I was 26 and told that I could die by the age of 30. So turning 40 is quite an accomplishment for me and my health has tremendously improved. I feel blessed to breathe everyday. There are two times in my life that mean a great deal to me. When I was a child and looking forward to becoming a senior adult. That is why I’m a board member for two specific organizations. Real Life. My Music is a nonprofit organization in Detroit that provides after school programs in arts, dance and music for school aged children, while St. Patrick’s Senior Center is a nonprofit organization in Detroit that provides services and programs for senior adults.

When I was a child I was very blessed and fortunate to have opportunities to formally study dance and music. Not all children have those opportunities now. Real Life. My Music helps to bridge that gap so that we can have a generation of well-rounded children who become well-rounded adults. As I get older, I hope to have access to the services and programs provided by St. Patrick’s Senior Center so that I can have an active life in my golden years. That is why I selected these two organizations to support.

Therefore, in honor of my milestone #FabLife40th birthday, I’d like those who support me, to support the organizations I donate my time and resources to.  It’s just that simple. No gifts. No gift cards. Just a $20 donation to each organization anytime between now and December 31, 2014. That’s all I want from my Super Fans for my #FabLife40th birthday.

This is also just one of the many ways I plan to bless others during this year, along with the upcoming events, I Feel Good! Mind, Body and Soul Women’s Conference in August, Detroit Women In the Arts Wikipedia Edit-Athon in October and my summer release of “Breaking Through the Black Ceiling” with a portion of sales being donated to Karmanos Cancer Institute in honor of Mark England.

I appreciate you in advance for supporting initiatives that are much needed in Metro Detroit for our children, senior adults and our community.

Smooches! 

~Super Woman 

 

To make a $20 donation to St. Patrick’s Senior Center click here. 

To make a $20 donation to Real Life. My Music click here. 

To support upcoming Super Events, please contact us using the Contact Us form here.

 

The Rain

In my last blog I talked about how patience pays off. I received so many thank you’s from people I know, and from people I’ve never met, who read my blog. I’m glad that what I say and how I feel motivates and helps others in their personal and professional lives. The beginning of 2014 has been an amazing time in my life and I can tell it’s just the beginning. I literally feel as if blessings and opportunities are raining down upon me everywhere I go and with everything I do. Recently, I was sending someone some of my good news and they replied “I can’t stand the rain”. My brain didn’t comprehend that immediately (it was a busy day and I’m always multitasking so I get a little slow sometimes – don’t judge me), and I thought of two songs: Missy Elliott’s “The Rain” (1997) and New Edition’s “Can You Stand The Rain” (1988). After thinking, I decided to just ask what they meant by that. They said it’s a term for “all the good things pouring down” on me. I fully understood at that point and stopped singing in my head looking for a clue in those songs lyrics. For those of you who have been reading my blog for a long time, you know that I believe that rain is necessary because without it we wouldn’t have flowers, trees and green grass. As much as rain can damage something, rain can also purify and improve something else. Rain in our lives allows us to grow and flourish even if it comes in the form of a storm. Rain can also pour down upon you in the form of success, blessings, and favor.

It’s definitely raining in my life and in my career. 

If you subscribe to the Super Newsletter and received your email this morning, you know that I am now also a correspondent blogger for Six Brown Chicks. I consider this an honor and an opportunity to do something I’m very passionate about on another platform; write. Writing is my primary gift. It’s one of the first gifts I developed as a child and it’s the one out of all the gifts I have possessed that has remained with me my entire adult life and hasn’t dwindled or gone unused. I appreciate any opportunity to share my gift of writing with the world. Six Brown Chicks has honored me with the opportunity to share my gift with an impressive audience of women of all ages, who do not yet know who I am or what I have to offer. I always use my opportunities wisely. I’m also honored to be selected because of the Six Brown Chicks mantra: Brown Chicks are women who are: Being Responsible Obedient Willingly Now. Choosing Honesty Integrity Commitment Kindness and Self-Worth. I am extremely thankful to Zondra Hughes and her team for choosing me and seeing these attributes in me as a representation of what they want to accomplish for the Six Brown Chicks brand. Zondra Hughes is someone who I have admired for a long time and having the chance to meet her this week amazed me.

One of my favorite quotes is so very fitting for what I’m experiencing. I heard it years ago and I often think of it during times when I have to make a business decision. It reminds me to assess the flow of opportunity, alliance and favor around me. It helps me select who I will say ‘yes‘ to and who I should decline offers from. It also tells me to enjoy the abundance of favor and success in my life when it comes about. It’s just five words that speak volumes and can completely alter your outlook when you understand how powerful the words really are. When we think of rain, the first thing we want to do is grab an umbrella so we can stay dry. It’s human nature for us to run indoors and get out of the rain when an umbrella may not be available to us. I’m not interested in staying dry and I’m not running indoors. I’m following the advice I heard years ago and I’m going to enjoy every raindrop that falls.

When it rains, get wet” – Quincy Jones

Six Brown Chicks New Correspondents April 2014

Blessed and Favored

With the holidays approaching, so many people feel hopeless and depressed because of what they don’t have. Statistically this is the time of year when people are more likely to commit suicide due to feelings of loneliness or depression over what they don’t have in their lives. A woman jumped to her death from a building days ago in Manhattan, after surviving Hurricane Sandy. While most people in Manhattan at that very moment were thankful for living through one of the worst storms they’ve ever experienced, she decided to end her life. Some people have a “glass is half empty“… or completely empty… mentality about their lives. Everyday I encounter people who throw pity parties for themselves, complain about how terrible everything is in their lives and about where they live. News media doesn’t help this mindset. They spend hours of time reporting on all the death, crime and scandals and give you only two minutes of human interest stories that are positive. Even in politics the candidates spend the majority of their time trying to make the other candidate look bad, instead of telling us what makes them look good – and telling the truth about it. During this year’s presidential election between the Binders Full of Women that don’t exist and Donald Trump holding “charity” for ransom, the whole politics for personal gain campaign had gotten on my last nerves.

However, it could be worse. I could have been without my sight, or even without my hearing and wouldn’t have known about any of it. And fortunately, I know how to change my television channel.

Therefore, it can be said that I am truly blessed and highly favored. My vision isn’t the best; contact lenses keep things 20/20 for my nearsightedness that I received thanks to chicken pox when I was three years old. When the weather cools down my body starts to ache from the two car accidents I had less than a year apart. I have a few extra gray hairs in my head that I’m not so enthused about. But it could be worse. Putting my contacts in everyday allows me to work, read, drive, and see everything around me. I know people who have lost their sight, although they are blessed to still have vision. Feeling pain in my legs and back reminds me that I still have the use of my legs and can walk. Those two car accidents in 2007 and 2008 could have ended a lot differently than they did. My gray hairs remind me that I’m alive and getting older, which wasn’t the case when I was told I could die before I turned thirty years old. Now I’m headed towards forty and there’s a such thing as permanent hair color to cover the grays.

I say all that to say that perspective about life contributes greatly to how we feel about our lives. Being grateful for the small things in life that we often take for granted can make the unforeseen tragedies a little easier to deal with. I feel so bad for the people in New York and New Jersey who suffered damage to their homes, businesses and disruption to their lives after Hurricane Sandy and after the nor-easter storm that followed shortly after. I really feel bad that a woman who survived the ordeal of Hurricane Sandy didn’t see herself as blessed and favored and therefore, made a decision to take her own life. She may have had the type of life that a lot of people in worse situations would have gladly traded with her. I recently read an article about a woman who had to have her limbs amputated because she so desperately wanted a bigger booty so she got illegal butt injections. She was so beautiful and gifted before making the decision that altered how she lives the remainder of her life. But she didn’t appreciate the beauty she had and instead concentrated on the booty she didn’t have. Now she doesn’t have arms or legs.

Maybe that’s what more people need to adjust their life perspectives; a “Trading Places” type of experience where they have to literally live someone else’s life for a period of time so that they can better appreciate their own. Personally, I’ll keep living the life I have. I can think of a lot of situations that could be a lot worse than what I have going on. I’ve also learned that by persevering through any situation, I come out learning a valuable lesson and often also reaping a tremendous reward.  No one said that living would be easy… At least not anyone that I know of. Even when everything isn’t exactly right in my Super World, I’m still very thankful for everything that exists in my Super World. I’ve been without creature comforts that I once took for granted. I know what it’s like to lose children, a marriage and many other things, including nearly losing my life and the use of my limbs. Those experiences taught me valuable lessons. I don’t regret the experiences because they were meant to occur so that I can be the woman I am. I wouldn’t give up any of this to have any of that happen again.

People complain too much. Often the complaint is related to something a person wants but doesn’t have; or something someone else is doing or has done, that they wouldn’t have the courage to change in the first place.

Instead of dwelling on what you don’t have, I encourage you to be more thankful for what you DO have. The desire to acquire what we don’t have has caused some people to lose their lives, their limbs and their faith. Everything you have is yours for a reason – good, bad or indifferent; either own it or adjust to it. Likewise, whatever is meant for you will also be yours; not necessarily because of you, but in spite of you. Sometimes, we can be our own biggest hindrance to our progress with our doubts, complaints and fears.

As you go about your life wishing and hoping for more, and not appreciating what you have, be careful of what you’ll exchange in order to get something you want. Everything comes at a price, including wealth, health, beauty and success. Love yourself first. Assess the important changes you can make to improve yourself like your integrity, character, self-esteem and attitude BEFORE you go through hell to change the superficial elements. Be thankful for the family you have, instead of wishing you had different family members or more of them. Some people are literally the last person in their family alive now. Be thankful for the days you have today and ahead of you instead of complaining about each day that comes. Life isn’t promised and someone died today. Be thankful for your job instead of complaining about the people you work with all the time. You may not be the best coworker to them either, but there is someone who woke up unemployed today. Don’t complain about what other people should or shouldn’t do; instead evaluate what you can do to make your own situation better. It’s likely that you aren’t being the best citizen or neighbor that you can be. Get off of Facebook and get face time with people around you and in your community. Become more involved in something positive and you won’t have time to concentrate on the negative.

Everyday count the blessings you have and look for new ones to appreciate. Making this a regular practice throughout the entire year will put a glow of love and abundance around you during each holiday season; rum not included. 

When you want to open your mouth to complain about something, remember this: 

No matter how bad you may think your situation is, someone else on this planet would gladly take your place and your blessings instead of what they deal with.  

Be blessed and highly favored.