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Keep Calm…I’m Still Here

It has been a few weeks since I posted. However, that doesn’t mean I haven’t been hard at work for The Company, The Woman, The Brand. I even did something I haven’t done in two years. I went on vacation. No, I don’t mean a stay-cation at the Fortress of Peace of Mind, or a weekend trip. I mean a real, authentic vacation, to another state, for more than three consecutive days. I attended this year’s Essence Festival in New Orleans and although I traveled to the Big Easy for the first time solo (no girlfriends, no boyfriend, no pets, no Super Son), I’m so very glad that I did. This was a trip to refocus and reiterate my purpose, and I was blessed to be around people and hear people speak, that helped me to accomplish that. Not to mention the music performances were STELLAR and before you ask, YES Mrs. Carter (aka Beyoncé) put on a fantastic show.

I also did some networking. Some of this networking I did will hopefully have long-term benefits result from it. I have a ton of video to edit so it can be posted on the Official Super Woman YouTube Channel to share will all of you, from the panel discussions at the Empowerment Experiences and a live performance from Marsha Ambrosius, to Steve Harvey hosting Family Feud. I ate shrimp and crawfish etouffee, chick and sausage jambalaya, turtle soup, fried oysters, crab cakes, conch, and the best peach cobbler I’ve ever had in my entire life, and my family hails from the South. The peach cobbler was so good in fact, it deserved its own Instagram post.

I have grown fond of sharing my experiences and my life lessons with others on a very transparent level, so on July 18, 2013 at 8:30 pm (eastern) I’m going to do something for my Super Fans. I’m hosting a live Google+ Hangout aptly called #AskSuperWoman, so that nine Super Fans can ask me questions which I will answer during the Hangout. The questions can really be about anything, and I have already agreed to answer the questions honestly and frankly. However, it’s best that the questions pertain to something that I know. In advance, let me say that I don’t know anything about physics, I can’t solve world hunger and I’m not giving anyone a loan. But any questions that may be relevant about business, my company, relationships, sex, friendship, entertainment, writing, getting a book published and many other topics that I have some knowledge of, are welcomed.

Participation is very easy. All you have to do is think of something to ask me, go to any page of the Super Woman Productions and Publishing website and click the button on the right side that says Ask Super Woman. An email will open in your browser, and you can type your question, then send it. I’ll receive your question and then invite you to the Google+ Hangout on July 18, 2013 at 8:30 pm (eastern). One (or some) of the nine people selected for the Hangout, will also receive a prize from me for their participation. It’s that easy.

There’s only one catch.

You have to be at least 18 years old.

And there’s another catch.

You have to submit your question by July 14 to be selected and accept the  #AskSuperWoman Google+ Hangout invitation you receive.

That’s it.

You don’t have to pay anything.

You don’t have to sell anything.

I don’t need you to sign any agreements or give me your oldest child. 

 

Then on July 18, 2013, at 8:30 pm (eastern), we are going to have some fun, grown folks conversation via Google+ Hangout. If you don’t accept the Hangout invitation and join the Hangout at 8:30 pm (eastern), you will not be eligible for a prize. So, get your question thought out and send it in to #AskSuperWoman by July 14 and I’ll tell you what you want to know.

~Smooches!  

Keep Calm I'm Still Here
Keep Calm
I’m Still Here

Teachable Moments Woven Into Fashion

Walk 5 Fashion Show was this past Saturday at the beautiful Detroit Opera House. The best description I could come up with to describe the show in one word is ratchet. People I spoke to said they got dressed up and paid $50 to stand in line for over an hour waiting to gain entry. The security staff at the Opera House was rude to models in the show and at one point refused to let them enter the building to dress for the show. I was granted press credentials but never received a press pass. I had to figure out where to sit on my own and was also treated rudely by security after being given incorrect instructions as to where I was to enter the show. The staff working for Jelly’s World and Iced Crystals were running around like chickens with their heads cut off; clueless and unable to locate each other.  This is a classic example of the right hand not knowing what the left was doing. Now, they may have been confused as to what capacity I was serving in when I arrived, because I was looking fabulous of course, but that’s why you should provide your press with press passes. That way you will know who is who, where they should sit, etc.

Did I mention the show took place outside? Thank God it didn’t rain and the temperature dropped from scorching hot to hot enough. Otherwise it would’ve been a sweating, hot mess.

The show was supposed to start at 8:30 pm, but in true CPT fashion, it didn’t start until 8:45 pm when the Walk Dancers appeared and performed a loosely choreographed routine featuring Beyoncé and Nicki Minaj songs to open the show. The stage featured a projector that was projecting upside down for the first few minutes of the show until the engineer who had installed it came back with a ladder to correct his snafu. After a very quick welcome by Dominique Reighard (America’s Next Top Model), who did less work than the DJ did, but likely got paid more money, the show finally started with Brickhouse Designs. Walk 5 staff didn’t pass out programs to the audience until 10:30pm so you had to pay very close attention to the projection on the screen against the back of the runway to know who was up next. I may be wrong, but I do believe that programs should have been passed out either upon entry, check in or to people while they were waiting in line.  

There was a performance after the intermission by TraVon, whose mic didn’t get turned on until the song was about 20 seconds in and his voice was barely heard over his pre-recorded track. There were many other sound issues during his performance, but he kept it moving, just like a professional. It was pretty obvious that TraVon is in need of vocal coaching because he couldn’t keep his tone consistent during a live, outdoor performance. It’s also obvious that they failed to do a sound check with him before the show.  

Gwenation saved our eardrums with her performance before the second part of the show began. But due to limited time and the fact that she was supposed to perform a lot earlier, she only sang one song. Manner later took the stage before the final part of the show. He reminds me of a cross between Musiq (when his hair was long), a black version of Justin Bieber and a male version of Nicki Minaj. He was somewhat talented. He was also smart enough to bring two handfuls of his own fans and family to the show (which he referred to as Mannequins) to cheer for him and sing his songs off-key, like it was his own personal concert. This was good because no one else in the audience seemed to know who he was. Nor did them seem to be heavily into his performance.  

One of the models lost her pantyliner on the runway at the beginning of the show, where it remained for at least two more collections. I’m serious. I have it on video. It just slipped right out of her panties and landed on the runway. There were more than enough visible tags, butt cracks, nipples, areolas, bras & panties throughout the show and of course no spanx for those who needed them. Mostly, I saw similar clothes that I’ve had in my closet for the last 5 years versus any new hotness. I was hoping for more haute couture. Instead I was greeted by a lot of been there before. Fashion shows are supposed to introduce you to things upcoming in fashions and trends; not show you clothes you already own. I saw a lot of women in the audience wearing the same clothes that were on the runway. Very little of what was featured during the first 3 rounds was actually “designed“, with the exception of the exquisite bow ties from the Alexander Collection. Mostly the first 3 rounds of so-called designers were actually boutique owners who had clothes that were all sewn and manufactured by someone else, that were sold in their boutiques. Clothes that are DESIGNED don’t have tags and they typically fit the models a lot better. The audience was more excited by seeing the child models strut their cuteness, than they were about any of the clothes.

One of the best designers was Diane Berry. Although she couldn’t save the show from its ratchetness. She’s a talented designer, but she isn’t Jesus. The fourth round of the fashion show should’ve been the first round. By the time real designers took the stage the audience had started to disperse, so a lot of people missed the best part. Beulah Cooley closed the show with her fabulous take on evening wear and I was actually on the road to impressed. But not as much because I had to wait too long to get there.

As hard as I tried not to be critical of the show as a reviewer, they made it too easy for me not to. Jelly’s World and Iced Crystals could have gone to many schools in Metro Detroit to offer an opportunity to up and coming fashion DESIGNERS, who actually draw designs, select fabrics and sew them into clothes that don’t have tags in them and fit the models appropriately. There are so many up and coming fashion designers in Detroit that would’ve loved to showcase real haute couture and show new trends in fashion. Unfortunately, they were somehow passed over for the chance during Walk 5. 

Walk 5 was better than the worst fashion show I’ve seen, which I blogged about in Fashion… Not Forward. However, Walk 5 was nothing compared to the many excellent fashion shows I’ve seen, including Fashion In Detroit. The stage and runway were very nice. Overall I give the whole event a 4 1/2 out of 10. At the end of the show, I couldn’t help but think that I had missed out on home cooked buffalo wings, (Cass Tech Alum) Big Sean and the MJ tribute at Bleu for this fuckery. The most exciting part of the night was when the fireworks went off at Comerica park and lit up the night sky.

This critique is all about the teachable moments in the show. It’s not meant to make anyone look bad, but instead point out areas of improvement to make the Walk Fashion Show better than it was and has been since its inception. It’s also a teachable moment for anyone aspiring to have a fashion show in the near future. We’re so easily pacified by mediocrity in Detroit that it really saddens me. If we keep supporting the mediocre, that’s all anyone will ever give us. And those of us that work hard to step up the game, never get recognized for it, because everyone wants the same thing they had before. To truly be successful, we have to be willing to get ahead of the curve instead of behind the eight ball. The way we do that is by being more creative and forward thinking, not by imitating what’s already been done. Walk 6 is scheduled for December 2012. Hopefully it will be indoors (huge bugs, the size of birds, swooped down at the audience at one point) and showcase something other than a lot of clothes people are already wearing.

~ When you know better you do better.

*The views of this blog are strictly those of Super Woman and not anyone else’s. You’re entitled to attend whichever events you’d like and formulate your own opinion about them. It is your money. However, at Super Woman Productions and Publishing, one of our goals is to provide higher quality events for those who prefer them. A model search is forthcoming for Sequins and Suits, on August 16, at Crave Lounge. The designer is Mark England* 

Refocus and Stay Focused

After the dawn of a new year, with the Republican primaries and the birth of Jay Z and Beyonce’s baby girl, some people have already begun to lose focus on what is important. Of course the Republican primaries are very important; particularly because we need to know who will be running against President Barack Obama. But the birth of Jay Z and Beyonce’s daughter has been the entire focus of many individuals. Yes, they are pop culture and music icons. Yes, we love them dearly. Yes, they are entertainers who entertain and give back. But, seriously, some of it is going too far. There were already so many people doubting (and hating) on Beyonce’s pregnancy, that the mere act of turning on any entertainment television program gave me a near migraine headache. But now that she has given birth, people are still finding reasons to doubt (and hate). Now people want to know why she had a caesarean instead of a vaginal birth. People want to know why she had a midwife instead of an ob/gyn. People want to know did they really rent out the whole floor of the hospital to keep people from being nosey. Yet, these same people have probably not made any steps or headway towards achieving their own goals. Some of them probably haven’t set any goals at all.

Since I’m working on a major event for 2012 called the I Feel Good: Mind, Body and Soul Women’s Conference (∞), completing my first magazine article due to the editor in a few days (∞) and completing a television spec script (∞), I’m going to give you these words quickly, and then move on to my own tasks, goals and life.

I greatly admire Beyonce and Jay Z as people and entertainers. I often say that I’m a Beyonce looking for a Jay Z , because I admire their relationship and partnership. But I don’t let their lives consume mine. At the end of the day, what they do has very little baring on my life, goals or lack thereof. I have a laundry list of my own talents, issues and goals to focus on this year. Therefore,  if there is something you want to do, but it isn’t getting done, or if you are not achieving your goals, or if you are not improving your community, or yourself as a person, but you have time to decipher the alleged meaning of little Blue Ivy Carter’s name, you should immediately refocus your energy into your own direction and do something more positive for yourself. The same energy that is being put into playing word games with a child’s name and making assumptions about the origin of her name based on (in my opinion) fictitious religious beliefs, is the same energy that can be used to go back to school, start a business, mentor a child in need, volunteer at a nonprofit and many other useful and productive tasks. Jay Z and Beyonce are already multimillionaires and no amount of gossip or innuendo is going to change that. Instead, allow their work ethic and marriage to be motivational and encourage you to strive for higher heights. After all, some of you have named your children stranger names than Blue Ivy and no one referred to you as evil for doing so.

Smooches!

Living Without Regrets

With everything that has transpired in my life recently, I can honestly say that I don’t regret anything. I don’t regret the relationships that went sour, I don’t regret the business risks or decisions I made, regardless of the outcome. I find a certain amount of indescribable peace in my life. I don’t know if it is a result of maturation, age, wisdom, or a combination of them. But I don’t regret a single second.

I’ve decided to grab opportunities and moments as they arrive. About two weeks ago, I met someone I was extremely attracted to. And with the full knowledge that time with him would be limited, I enjoyed every second I spent with him. And I did so without regret. I ended a relationship that was unhealthy and unproductive. It was short lived. I don’t regret enterting into that relationship and I don’t regret ending it. Recently a business opportunity has come my way. It makes sense and will have long term benefits for me. I’m taking advantage of the opportunity and I will do so without regret. Life is too short to not live. Life is also too precious to dwell on the bad decisions we make and live fearful of taking chances. God doesn’t grant us the spirit of fear. That’s not to say we shouldn’t be cautious or knowledgeable in our decision making process. But we only have a certain amount of control over what other’s do or don’t. Therefore, decisions made shouldn’t be based on what someone else will or won’t do, can or can’t do, said or didn’t say. Decisions should only be made based on what’s within you as an individual and what you know, think, feel and care about. Decisions should be based on your own character and agenda. Not someone else’s. That is how you guarantee that you live without regrets and live life fully. Don’t fear being open to change. Change is good. I’ve said before that it promotes growth. Change also isn’t always directed specifically at you. The change you experience may also be to benefit, adjust or impact someone else involved. When that happens you are being used as an instrument of change in the Master’s Plan. There’s nothing to regret about that.

I’ve got so many plans. Places to go, things to do and many people yet to meet. Everyone comes into your life for something. Although people don’t always enter your life for the right reasons, I’ve made a conscious decision to judge each person, male or female, based on their own merits, not those of others. Therefore, there isn’t any regret. If a person falls short,  it’s not due to me expecting them to fall short because of the previous person’s actions, or inaction. If a person disappoints me, it’s not because I expected them to disappoint me because the last person disappointed me. If the relationship dies, it won’t be because my last one did. I can’t change other people, I can only change how I react to and accept them. I can either accept them as they are or not deal with them at all. Either way, it is without regret.

Holding onto regrets doesn’t change the situation, change the past or set the future on a different path. Holding onto regret only burdens the holder. When you release  regret, you also release the fears that were born of those regrets. When you release that fear you live a more open, honest and forgiving life. Forgiveness begins within. If you can’t forgive yourself for the plans that went awry, the relationships that went to the left (to the left, everything you own in the box to the left) or the opportunities you let slip away, you will not be able to live your life to the fullest. You will always be shackled by those regrets. That’s not a purpose driven life. That’s not how I choose to live. I don’t expect everyone to understand what I mean in this post. Experiences are like noses – everyone has one and people make judgements based on their own. I personally have a peace of mind about everything that I do, have done and will do, as well as any experiences I have had –  good, bad or ugly. I don’t have any regrets.  

So today, I will relax, relate, release, renew, refocus and not regret.

Life is too beautiful to do anything other than that.