Karma. It is a word used in the Hindu and Buddhist philosophies. Its definition is the quality of someone’s current and future life as determined by that person’s previous behaviors. The Good Book says, “You reap what you sow”. The principles are the same. You get what you give. If you give heartache, drama and pain, at some point in your lifetime, the same will be returned to you, often in higher doses that are much more difficult to swallow.
As I embark on this journey that is the fulfillment of God’s plan for me, I’m finding that I have to be very mindful about who I select to spend my personal time with and whom I allow into my inner circle. Most of those people are loyal and understanding. They know that my dreams are important to me and they support me completely. Although I’m not yet at the level of success I am striving to obtain as the next reigning Queen of All Media, it’s just over the horizon because I’m working towards it. As a result of my future plans for myself and Super Son, I’m very selective, especially when it comes to my interpersonal relationships with men.
Before I began on this journey I had some painful relationships with the men in my life. I had been rejected and heartbroken, even battered and abused. I have healed from that and it made me a much better judge of character. Now I can tell when man is a problem a lot earlier, sometimes even when I first look at him. Even the men that weren’t problems have still caused me pain to some degree, even if unintentionally. Then there are those few who know that they made absolutely no attempt to treat me well and they tried to take my kindness for weakness. Those are the men who seem to think they always deserve another chance in my life – especially now. Now that I’m in the Google search engine, my phone tings and rings from the “past loves”. Those are the men who toss the word love into their text messages without fully understanding how to show love. Now they see that everything I ever dreamed about is coming to fruition. Everything they told me I would never be, I am becoming. And they want back in the game.
I find it most interesting that these same men, since ending their relationships with me, are having difficulty in their careers, with their families, with their finances, with their new woman; regardless of their level of education, upbringing or social status. They are all suffering in one way or another. The men who told me I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough or I didn’t make enough money to be their wives, are still single, and a lot older. The women they pursue now mistreat them. They are all reaping their harvest and it is rotten. Attempting to invade my garden will not clear up their karma. If they now know better, they have to do better. The first step is not telling me what they think I want to hear in hopes that they can resuscitate what has died. The first step is recognition of what they’ve done, followed by a sincere apology. On the other hand, the men who treated me well are happy, successful, have financial security and very little drama in their lives, if any at all. Their harvest is bountiful because they treat people well in their lives. If any of these men wanted a second chance at a relationship with me, I would gladly consider it.
When a person sets out to treat others with compassion and respect, kindness and understanding they often reap the benefits of those good relationships. When a person is honest and considerate without being condescending or demeaning, they often receive respect from others. When a person operates with integrity and good character, it’s a lot easier to accept them as an individual regardless of what you may dislike about their personality. When a person shows you that they care for you with their actions, you can believe them when they say “I love you”. These are the same people who are fully realized, happy individuals with good Karma. And I am happy for them.
I know that my life is a road trip, full of interesting stops along the way. However, I can’t drive forward, if my car is in reverse. I can’t fulfill my heart’s desire for mutual love if I allow those who do not love me to inhabit that space. I give to others and I’m being blessed in return. As I compare the two types of men I’ve had in my life, I am thankful for both. They have helped make me who I am today and who I will be tomorrow. To those who were loving and supportive, regardless of how it ended between us, I’m thankful for the experience and friendship. To those who tried to break me, damage me, belittle me and who doubted me, I appreciate you also. Because now I am fabulous. And the best revenge is to be fabulous.
I encourage you to be mindful of how you treat each other. Be careful of how you treat those whom you profess to love. Love is an action word, not a filler in place of remorse. You only get one life and you don’t want to spend it reaping a harvest full of bad Karma.