We’re surrounded by it everywhere we look. Billboards, mainstream media, including television telling us what the standards of beauty are and how we should be, instead of embracing our ever varying diversity and what we are able to contribute as individuals. Regardless of what others insist that you mold yourself into, it is very important that you remain true to yourself in life. Be yourself; only better. This can be the most difficult task of your life because others will want expect you to be who they think you should be to satisfy their own agendas. Whatever obstacles you face, you should always have your own agenda that dictates who and how you contribute to this world. Stay true to your feelings, your vision, your morals, values and standards. Develop your personal sense of style, love your skin, and hair, size and shape. Acknowledge your gifts and talents. If you do these things, you will always be blessed.
This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t embrace positive change. Change is good; it promotes growth and enhances character. Be open and receptive to any of the challenges you face in your life. Challenges that are conquered feed the soul and will bring about a sense of accomplishment for you if you simply try your best. Whatever you set out to achieve is well within your grasp when you exhibit determination and have focus. What you bring to this world as an individual is priceless and irreplaceable. There will never be another you. You are unique in your design. Your style is your own, your beauty is unique, your intellect is a treasure.
Self assess yourself and your personal relationships. Strive to be the type of person you would want to have a relationship with; a person who is strong, confident and honest. A person who compliments your best qualities and enhances your existing happiness. Someone enjoyable to be around who loves and appreicates life and the diversity that it includes. These are essential elements for the foundation of a healthy relationship. Embrace your flaws, pet peeves & annoying habits. They give you personality. Change only what you want to change about yourself, along with what you should change to improve your health & finances. You are aware of what those things are, even if you’ve never acknowledged them aloud.
Be a good friend to others. You can only receive what you are willing to give to others. You can’t expect others to live up to standards that you do not yourself live up to. If you are consistently being disappointed by someone, one of the two of you isn’t a good friend to the other. Be encouraging and uplifting of others. Particularly towards other women, both younger and older. We are each other’s responsibility and we must care for one another. Putting others down will never lift you up. Being a hater is an excuse for not fulfilling your own potential. It may give you temporary satisfaction, but won’t feed your soul or fill your bank account.
Work to fulfill your dreams and goals. You may have had to sacrifice your dreams at some point in your life, but it’s never too late to pursue them again. It takes balance, prayer and perseverance. If you’re interested in pursuing your dreams, network with like-minded people who will encourage and support your endeavors and success. Working hard and smart have monumental payoffs for those who don’t give up. Don’t allow people to deter you and draw your focus onto their dreams, when you can spend your energy pursuing your own. You have a purpose here in this world and you can be a blessing to yourself and to others; you don’t have to choose one over the other.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. You add more stress to yourself when you don’t ask for help. Asking for help includes asking for guidance from whichever spiritual entity you worship. God uses us to bless others. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength and wisdom. Where you may be lacking in an area of your life, knowledge or ability, others may contribute. Even a super hero needs a sidekick for assistance sometimes.
Don’t be afraid of trying something different or being adventurous. The human body needs an adrenaline rush on occasion to preserve our natural survival instincts. Plan a vacation somewhere that you’ve never been before, go to an amusement park and ride a roller coaster. Open yourself up and do something you’ve always wanted to do, even if you don’t have anyone to accompany you.
Nurture your individuality. Whether you like to wear your hair long or short, like to read or listen to music; whatever makes you different is beautiful. Embrace it fully. We don’t all look or think alike and that keeps life more interesting. What a boring world this would be if we were all mindless clones of some other person. Learn to appreciate the differences that others have. All of your friends don’t have to be exactly like you. If you have friends that always agree with you no matter what you do, you need new friends. You make mistakes, as anyone does, and a true friend will call you out on your mess.
Don’t work hard at getting revenge on those who have hurt and disappointed you. Instead, work hard at getting better. The better you are, the better you look, and the better you feel about yourself, the more the person who has wronged you will regret not having you in their life. The best revenge is to be fabulous.
Live your life to the fullest; you only get one chance. Be beautiful. Be bright. Be powerful. Be you.